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2022-05-13
A Permanent Harbor

A Permanent Harbor

The International Day of Families was designated by the UN as May 15. The International Day of Families was established in response to the impact of social change on families and to raise awareness of the importance and the needs of families around the world. This was done in the hope that people would dedicate their lives and love to building families that are warm, caring, safe, tolerant, accepting, and committed to staying-together.
 
Over the past 30 years, we have helped more than 2,000 children in need of love and care to having their own homes. Furthermore, we have fulfilled the wishes of many adoptive parents who want to raise children, so that their homes are not just temporary shelters, but warm permanent havens.
 
We would like to share some positive experiences in families that we have witnessed in our adoption services over the years. These cases have taught us just how important a family is for any individual.
 
Lily blooms...
 
When Lily first came to her family, she was shy. This was because she had not yet built a sense of trust. With her adoptive parents' gentle and loving care, Lily gradually opened up.
 
After spending time together as a family, her adoptive mother noticed that Lily's language development seemed a little slow. This realization led her to be more patient in helping Lily. While encouraging Lily to speak more, Lily's adoptive mom also listened to her more attentively.
 
Gradually, Lily's speaking improved, and now, she is able to speak just like other children her age. Also, her adoptive mother loves cooking and often has Lily involved, they then enjoy the food together. Lily's parents encourage her to try everything on her own, without too much interference or unnecessary limits. They believe that accepting a child completely is the best love they can give to their child.
 
Joy catches up...
 
Joy’s adoptive parents are busy but great in team work. When Mom feels challenged balancing work and child care, Dad is always there and ready.
 
Joy’s favorite time is dad’s bedtime story. Once in a while, when Joy won’t listen, or runs around the house too excited to stay still. Her mother would ask her to sit in a chair for a while, then patiently communicate with Joy.
 
Their family’s social worker also noted that Joy's gross and fine motor skills had very good development under the good care of her adoptive parents. At only three years old, she can roll over, crawl, walk, run and jump smoothly, and she also has developed her fine motor skills. From eating with a spoon to putting on shoes or building blocks, none of these activities is difficult for her.
 
Faye bonds...
 
When little Faye was brought home by her adoptive parents, she didn’t know how to interact with other children. Sometimes Faye would take away her big sister's toys or even push her sister around. Whenever this happened, her adoptive parents did not just take this as Faye was too young and incapable of knowing better, instead they carefully explained to Faye what was appropriate and what was not.
 
By instilling the right behavior concepts, the parents guided Faye in knowing when she will be recommended and when she needs to make adjustments in her behavior. These clear rules also gave Faye a sense of security.
 
The family shares a secure relationship. Faye likes to sit on her dad's lap and read storybooks together. She also likes to step on her dad’s feet and walk around. Most of all, Faye likes to play with her older sister, always asking her to play 'house' with her.
 
From these anecdotes, we can see that families can be formed in many different ways. The integration of a child into a family depends on the adoptive parents' attentive care and good guidance. Parenting is never easy and even more so when facing children who are somewhat developmentally behind or very active. Such challenging times require more patience and repeated sharing, but these moments of interaction bond the family together and allow all the members to truly feel the connection and affection for each other.





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